Since we've had OJ home and since I've been on maternity leave, we've all been doing a little bit of adjusting. Besides the feedings, diaper changes, and pumping every 3 and 4 hours, having OJ home has been a piece of cake. He's a very "easy" baby in the terms that he eats well, sleeps well, and doesn't require a lot of maintenace. The only thing he's a little fussy with is that he's hungry a lot and wants to feed at least half an hour earlier than his schedule feedings. Other than that, he's a pretty chill baby.
DB has been a good sport having OJ home. I think he understands that OJ is a part of our family and here to stay. DB's aware of his presence and knows when OJ is gone. When O took OJ to his first well baby visit, DB saw the empty crib and looked at me with a confused expression. "Baby gone?" It melted my heart to know that he cared about his little brother in such a short time. I have no doubt he will be a good big brother to OJ.
Sleeping, as we feared, would be the hardest thing to adjust to. Or should I say, the lack of sleep. It's not that OJ cries through the night. As I've mentioned, he's a pretty good sleeper. But he does complain a lot when he's hungry. We've continued the newborn schedule that we put DB on when he was still a young baby. O would take the 11pm and 2 am feedings, I would do the 5am and 8am feedings.
One thing I miss with OJ, he's not being breastfed. :( I'm sadder about this that I initially thought. I'm exclusively pumping milk for him to drink, every 3 hours, 6 times a day. I pump like clockwork, religously. And currently I output more than OJ takes in, and he drinks more than what most newborns drink. Still, there's about 60oz of breastmilk already storing in the freezer with about 30 oz of milk at OJ's disposable in the fridge every day. Exclusively pumping has increased my milk output.
Yet with all the milk we have, I'm missing the bonding moments that comes with feeding a baby. With DB, the morning feeding was my favorite time of the day. It was a magical moment for the both of us as it gave us time to bond. Even now, with DB nearing three years old, we have a pretty close relationship. With OJ, I feel like I'm cheating him out of mommy time. :( I'm exclusively pumping because it allows us to monitor how much milk he's drinking. This was a problem for DB, especially when he started teething at 3 months. He didn't gain a lot of weight after that and we were constantly worried about his growth. Also, I think DB had nipple confusion as he was constantly switching from bottle to breast and I think this had somehow had an effect on his milk intake.
So far, with OJ, he's been a really good eater and I'm just relieved. His healthy growth is ultimately what I care about.